By Joy Morris
As you probably have figured out as the parent of a college-bound child, preparation starts early. From saving for tuition to emphasizing good grades to encouraging extracurricular involvement, laying the foundation for success happens long before senior year.
You’ve spent years preparing them for independence, yet nothing quite prepares you for watching them step into this exciting new chapter. As a mom who’s been there, here is my best advice for helping them thrive while preserving your own peace of mind.
GETTING INVOLVED ON CAMPUS
One of the best ways for students to feel at home in college is by getting involved. Encourage them to research clubs, organizations and faith-based groups that align with their interests. When touring campuses, talk to current students to get an inside look into what value the organization brings to them. While Greek life is a great option for some, there are countless other ways to form meaningful connections.
For my daughter, an early love for science shaped her college journey. She participated in science fairs, explored career interests and attended summer programs at the University of Mississippi, which allowed her to experience college life firsthand. If your student has a passion, whether academic, athletic or artistic, investigate university-sponsored programs while he or she is still in high school. These experiences build confidence and create early connections. An engaged student is a happy student!
HOUSING
With housing in high demand, applying early is crucial. Early admission can give your student more housing options.
Once your dorm is secured, let the decorating begin! Dorms have very little space. Think about dual-purpose items like ottomans that also serve as storage, hooks for maximizing closet space, etc. Make sure that the space is functional, clutter- free and easy for your student to keep clean and organized. When ordering futons, bedding, cushions and chairs, look for stain-resistant fabrics or surfaces that can be easily sanitized.
NAVIGATING FINANCES
To state the obvious, college is expensive — so encourage your student to apply for every scholarship, grant and financial-aid opportunity available. Some scholarships are renewable while others apply only to freshman year. Understanding this early can help with long-term financial planning and reduce student debt.
STAYING CONNECTED & LETTING GO
A friend once suggested scheduling a face-to-face check-in every four to six weeks, and I’m so grateful for that advice. These visits helped me feel connected, gave me a chance to swap out seasonal dorm items/clothing, etc. and reassured me that my daughter was adjusting well.
Saying goodbye has never gotten easier. While I love seeing my child thrive, I still feel that tug at my heart every time we part ways. Nonetheless, I take comfort in knowing she’s prepared, confident and secure in the knowledge that I’m always here for her — no matter what.
Joy Morris is the mother of a sophomore at the University of Mississippi and another daughter who is a college-bound senior at St. Patrick High School. Reach her at jpaynemorris@bellsouth.net.