If you’re looking to level up your leadership skills, one of the fastest ways to improve is to find a mentor — and to be a mentor. Whether you’re looking for guidance or to share your knowledge, mentorship offers opportunities to learn, build relationships and achieve goals. Here are some of our favorite tips for both mentees and mentors, so you can make the most of the experience.
WHY MENTORSHIP MATTERS
Mentorship helps you:
- Develop skills and confidence.
- Gain fresh perspectives.
- Build strong networks.
- Create meaningful relationships.
7 TIPS FOR MENTEES
Having a mentor is like having a trusted advisor who can guide you through challenges and decisions. Here’s how to make the relationship successful:
1. HOW TO FIND A MENTOR
Start by identifying someone with experience in your field or someone whose leadership style you admire. If you know this person, give him or her a call. If not, reach out via email or LinkedIn with a polite, concise message. Share why you’re reaching out, what you hope to learn and propose a brief introductory meeting. I’ve been happily surprised by how many successful leaders are happy to help.
2. SET CLEAR EXPECTATIONS
Agree on logistics upfront:
- How often to meet: Monthly or bi-weekly meetings work well for most mentorships.
- Meeting length: Typically 30-60 minutes
- Communication style: Will you meet in person, over video calls or via phone? Lunch meetings are a favorite if logistics work out.
3. PREPARE AN AGENDA FOR EACH MEETING
Having a clear agenda ensures productive conversations (sharing this in advance can be helpful). A sample agenda might include:
- Quick personal updates (5-10 minutes).
- Review of previous action items (5-10 minutes).
- Discuss current challenges or questions (15-20 minutes).
- Set goals or next steps (5 minutes).
4. DOES GENDER MATTER?
Not necessarily. Focus on finding someone whose experience and perspective align with your goals. However, some mentees may feel more comfortable with mentors of the same gender, especially when discussing sensitive topics.
5. TAKE NOTES AND FOLLOW THROUGH
Write down key insights from each meeting and follow up on any action items. This shows respect for your mentor’s time and helps you stay accountable.
6. SHOULD YOU PAY YOUR MENTOR?
Informal mentorships are usually unpaid, but if you’re working with a professional coach, payment might be expected. Be upfront about this during initial discussions.
7. BUILD A LONG-TERM CONNECTION
Even after formal meetings end, keep in touch. Share updates on your progress to show how their advice has helped you.
THE IMPACT OF MENTORSHIP
Mentorship is a powerful tool that benefits both mentors and mentees. As a mentee, you gain guidance and confidence to pursue your goals. As a mentor, you leave a legacy by helping others grow while sharpening your own skills. Together, you create a partnership that fosters learning, development and lasting connections.
Whether you’re seeking a mentor or considering becoming one, take the first step. The rewards of mentorship are immeasurable and can shape your journey for years to come.