Becoming a parent often shifts everything: your schedule, your priorities and your sense of self. It can feel like the life you once imagined no longer is compatible with the one you’re living. But what if, instead of sacrificing your ambitions, you simply redefined what success means?
For many moms, the answer lies in finding your Zone of Genius, a concept introduced by psychologist Gay Hendricks in his book, “The Big Leap.” It’s the sweet spot where your natural talents, deep passions and purpose intersect. In that zone, work feels energizing and meaningful, and life outside of work feels more spacious.
HERE’S HOW TO FIND YOURS:
1. Look back to move forward:
Think about your younger self, before life got so complicated. What lit you up at age 13? What did you daydream about being “when you grew up?” Those memories provide clues about what makes you come alive.
2. Identify your strengths and joy triggers:
Ask yourself: What comes easily to me that’s hard for others? What tasks give me energy instead of draining me? What do people consistently ask me for help with?
3. Audit your calendar:
List your top values; maybe they’re family, flexibility and finances. Next, audit your calendar. Do your days reflect those values? If not, where can you make small shifts?
4. Test, don’t guess:
You don’t have to reinvent your life overnight. Test new roles, projects or routines in small doses. Say “yes” to a freelance gig, volunteer opportunity or creative class that aligns with your genius zone, and see how it feels.
5. Let go of old definitions:
Success isn’t defined by titles, income or hours logged. For parents, it might mean doing work that fills your cup while still being there for school pickup.
The end goal isn’t just balance, it’s alignment. When your work, energy and values line up, everything flows more easily. That’s not just a win for you; it’s a powerful model for your children, too.
PROMPTS TO EXPLORE YOUR ZONE OF GENIUS:
- What would you do all day even if no one paid you?
- When do you feel most confident?
- What do others often compliment you on?
- What are you avoiding that you secretly want to try?
- If your child followed in your footsteps, what path would you be proud of?